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‘You shouldn’t take anything for granted’: Family loses three to COVID in nine months |  Local News

‘You shouldn’t take anything for granted’: Family loses three to COVID in nine months | Local News

SAND SPRINGS — More than 12,500 Oklahomans have been lost to COVID-19, and many of their families have no doubt experienced the unique anguish of deciding when to let them go — when to silence the cacophony of overtime machines to keep those beloved husbands, wives, mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, sisters, brothers and others on this side of the veil.

“I’m a reserved person, I think,” Mattie Fish, 84, said. “I am not a chef. I don’t like making decisions.

But late on the evening of Thursday, February 11, her eldest son, Roger Fish, received a phone call from the Oklahoma City hospital where his brother, Ashley Fish – Mattie’s youngest son – had been transferred. Ashley, who was on a ventilator to fight COVID, had gotten worse, they said, and Mattie had to go to the hospital and make a decision.

So she and Roger and Ashley’s children went the next morning, braving the bitter cold and icy roads, to say goodbye to Ashley, 53.

“He was in a coma, but they told us he could hear us,” Mattie said. “So I told him that his whole life had been devoted to his children and that he was a good father.”

After Ashley’s death, the family moved back to the Sand Springs residence they’ve lived in since 1965. A few hours later, Saturday morning, “they called us in St. John (in Tulsa) to do the same thing. for Elmer,” Mattie said. .