Utah woman forced to hand over her ex’s ‘boudoir’ album in divorce case
A Utah woman has been forced to hand her ex-husband an edited ‘boudoir album’ of racy nude photos as part of their divorce – so he can save the accompanying messages of love for ‘l ‘love of memory’.
Lindsay Marsh told KSL News that a judge forced her to ‘essentially distribute pornography’ after ruling that her 25-year-old husband had the right to keep the intimate messages she had scribbled inside the scrapbook.
While the judge eventually allowed her to have the racy photos edited – so they were ‘obscured’ – the order left her feeling violated.
« It’s violent and it’s incredibly embarrassing and humiliating, » she also told the Salt Lake Tribune of the order.
Even having to deliver the messages is “violent”, she insisted.
« These are sensual and loving things I wrote to my husband whom I loved. [He’s] my ex-husband now,” she said.
« The only way I can hopefully prevent someone else from going through the same thing is to tell my story and expose that these are the types of things they think are okay, » said she told the Utah newspaper.
Marsh said the boudoir album was the only thing her ex Chris Marsh fought to keep during the divorce, which was finalized in July.
Davis County Judge Michael Edwards ordered that the scrapbook be turned over so that « the words are preserved for memory. »
However, the photos could be given to the original photographer who could « do whatever it takes to edit them » so that any photos of Marsh « in lingerie or that sort of thing or even without clothes are obscured and removed », wrote the judge in a split decision with the two outlets.
This photographer – a close friend – initially refused to edit the photos because « her clients trust her with their images and their privacy, (and) she takes that seriously, » Marsh told KSL.
So in an Aug. 26 ruling, the judge ordered her to instead give them to another photographer to retouch — someone she thinks her ex-husband knew, she said. declared at the point of sale.
She was so panicked that she called the judge’s registry to verify that it was not a mistake, she told the Tribune.
“I just want to clarify… The judge ordered me to give nude photos of my body to a third party I don’t know without my consent? she remembers asking.
After hearing the judge’s order, the original photographer agreed to edit the photos, putting large black boxes over any part of Marsh’s body while keeping the messages intact.
However, Marsh understands discussions between their attorneys that her husband is unhappy with the edited photos.
« If all he really cared about was the sign-ups, he got them, » she told KSL.
I complied with the court order, although I firmly believe that [the] order [is] violating on many levels,” she said.
She felt ‘humiliated to still have to revisit those photos from years ago and to have had to edit them and to have been involved in any way’ and ‘can’t imagine doing that. to someone else ».
Marsh has been ordered to keep the original album for 90 days in case her ex demands further edits – after which she plans a scorching party to finally burn down the painful memories.
« It’s going to be amazing, » she told the Tribune.
Chris Marsh claimed the images weren’t as « intimate » as his ex-wife made out, insisting many had been posted online or hung up in their homes.
« I cherish the fond memories we have had over all these years in normal and proper exchanges between a husband and wife…and I have sought to preserve that by having the inscriptions, » he said. at the Tribune.
He noted that his ex-wife’s view of the order was « not my view or that of an impartial judge. »
« It appears that she intentionally distorted and sensationalized several aspects of due process to manipulate the opinions of others to gain attention and validate victim status, » he told KSL.
A spokesperson for the Utah state court system told the outlet that Judge Edwards was unable to discuss specific cases.