Age is just a number and whether you’re in your 20s, 60s, or somewhere in between, it’s no barrier to great love, says sex expert Stella Ralfini.
The author believes that all women should have an orgasm every day – and that’s the secret to looking and feeling younger.
Even so, a W TV poll found the older we get, the more likely we are to exaggerate how much sex we have – with the over 65s telling the biggest lies.
But whether it’s a quickie once a week or sex every six months, Stella is now sharing her tips on how to have sex in every decade of life.
20s: Make a sex to-do list
These are the years when we have beautiful bodies but are so preoccupied with imperfections that we cling to showing them off.
Your twenties are ideal for sexual exploration and experimentation.
Now is the best time to be open about the ons and offs and show lovers how to help you achieve a real orgasm.
Use your best years to discover yourself and don’t dwell on bystander sex – where you pretend to please your man.
Most of us forge our careers in these years and if you can nail sex, research shows you’ll get that promotion.
Hot tip: Create a sex bucket list and check off the things you’ve accomplished, from watching porn to going to your first sex party to fulfilling sexual fantasies.
Be brave and bold and make the most of these crazy years.
According to a study by the Family Planning Association, 80% of women do not have an orgasm from penetrative sex alone.
So don’t be afraid to give your partner clear instructions about what you like in bed and what you don’t.
30 years old: Do you feel stressed? Why not try tantric…
Research shows that these are the years when our sex life can suffer the most.
Life gets a little more complicated as this is often the time when we find a life partner and settle down, get married and start a family.
People’s priorities change and you may not have the freedom you had in your twenties, but you can still have a great sex life.
A fairly common problem is libido mismatch, where one partner feels they are not having enough sex.
It can be hard to feel sexy when you’re a stressed parent, but don’t lose yourself and deprive your partner.
You can always keep the flames of passion going by remembering the importance of touching your partner regularly and trying other forms of pleasure when you’re not in the mood for penetrative sex.
Hot tip: Don’t yearn for the sex you just had with your partner, accept the change. It may seem like a real passion killer, but programming in sex.
That way, you both know you have something to look forward to: a little adult fun every week, not to mention work, bills, or kids.
Drop the kids off with a friend or relative for a while and have fun with each other.
These are the years favorable to the discovery of tantra. Lying naked next to each other in bed and kissing from head to toe is a great way to create intimacy and incorporate some tantric sex.
40 years: stay in shape to boost libido
These are the years when you really blossom. You are hopefully more financially stable and in a good place in your career.
If you have a family, your children will probably be a little older and less dependent on you, so you can indulge in this naughty weekend.
Personally, I loved my 40s. That’s when I really discovered what I loved in bed and had the confidence to ask for it.
Hot tip: Your body may not move the way it did when you were 20, but if you take your health seriously, you can be just as fit, if not better.
Research shows that those who work out have higher sex drives than those who don’t, so be sure to exercise regularly to pump up the endorphins that help increase the production of feel-good neurotransmitters. of the brain, which encourage a healthy sexual appetite.
Keep everything healthy by doing daily pelvic floor exercises. These exercises will strengthen your pelvic floor, which means better sex.
Imagine that you are sitting on a marble and tensing your pelvic floor muscles as if you were lifting it.
Try it for three seconds and then relax for three.
50 years and over: change position. Keep the romance alive
If you’re going through menopause, that doesn’t mean your sex life has to end.
Estrogen levels drop, which means you might experience a low libido. Many women also suffer from dryness. Low testosterone in men usually means that their libido is also decreasing and can be a tricky time for both genders.
This is where knowledge of tantric sex comes in handy as it is an issue that should be discussed so that neither partner feels guilty for their changed attitude towards sex. Sex can improve with a little work and the right mindset. You can have hot sex in your 50s and 60s.
Hot tip: There are brilliant lubricants such as coconut oil, and almost any lubricant containing glycerin is good.
Changing sexual position also helps. Stop thinking above. Lateral “spoon” positions are more comfortable and the buck can lift your body for take off.
You can change the time of day you have sex whenever you have the most energy.
If you no longer enjoy penetrative sex, awaken your senses by watching porn, reading an erotic novel, or listening to an audiobook.
Talk to your partner about any desires or concerns you have, and if you’re in a long-term relationship, don’t forget the romance.
This story originally appeared on The Sun and has been reproduced here with permission.